Circles and Circles

I am mostly writing this because I need to vent and I don’t think it’s proper to Facebook vent about this, so I will write it here and THEN link it to my Facebook! (Classy I know…)

I feel like I am going in circles and circles with certain people in my life and it’s starting to frustrate me. I feel taken advantage of on a regular basis yet I still continue to be nice and do everything for certain people! I know it’s a personal problem but how do I stop myself from being kind and open!?

I’ve done numerous things for specific individuals and get hardly any thanks in return, if any at all…. Like I said before, maybe it’s me and I just need to learn how to step back and say “Hey… I’m not going to do this anymore..”

We’ve all been there, caring for someone when they didn’t care the same way for us… doing nice things… stepping out on a limb…. WISHING AND HOPING that maybe a realization would set in that you are just wasting your time… OR maybe a positive note like THEY realize they shouldn’t take for granted what is right in front of them!!

After saying all this… it’s safe to say younger guys are frustrating and mildly selfish… (in my opinion… so don’t yell at me for assuming they are all the same) and this is why I’ve always told my mom I will end up with someone at LEAST 5 years older than me! Preferably 10! I’m real and I’m serious… I have a lot of love to give but have obviously been wasting it! I need to change that!

It’s hard to slow down and realize that you won’t be good enough for the person you were hoping to be good enough for! And I guess that is where it ends… you have to move on and keep smiling and be HAPPY and thankful for this life!

I need some coffee, and some zen, and some me time, and a little less caring about people who don’t care about me!!

(apologies for terrible grammar and a lot of “and’s”

Steps to Becoming a Happier Person

Happiness is a choice

Often times we go through life, shifting through the motions but feeling like there is something missing: our happiness. Someone once told me, “Avery, happiness is a choice,” in which I laughed and went on with my usual business. I had always been in the mindset that my happiness was out of my control and that in order for my happiness to be at an all time high in my life, good things needed to happen. Bad things happen to bad people, bad things happen to good people; bad things happen. Of course, I thought if bad things happened, there is no way happiness could survive and thrive in such a tragic place. I can openly admit that I was very wrong.

What I’ve learned in my life so far is that I can control my happiness, and make the best out of even the most terrible situations. As an individual, I am able to surround myself with people, places, and objects that are going to make me feel and act better. Happiness is a very important aspect in our lives and the relationships that we form. I now look back on the advice I was given, and I do believe happiness is a choice. It may be a hard one to make at times, but it is the most rewarding in the long run.

So, if happiness is a choice, you may be wondering what actions you should take in order to bring your happiness to an all time high.

1. Choose to be happy.
This is the most important step! You must take the initial step to being a happier person and that is making the choice to be happy. It is not true that you are stuck in a spot of happiness in which you are not able to move. It is possible to boost your emotions and feel better!

2. Learn forgiveness.
There is nothing worse than holding a grudge and continuing to water the deep seed of bitterness that you have planted in your heart. In order to achieve ultimate happiness, you must let go of any anger and bitterness you have been holding on to. This is an opportunity to break the chains and it can ultimately be a very freeing experience if you let it.

3. Neutralize negativity.
By minimizing the negative thoughts in your life you can lead a happier life. Your thoughts are what control your behavior in life, and when they are all negative, you are bound to be unhappy in everything you do. When choosing positive thoughts and actions, happiness is right around the corner.

4. Build relationships.
By building positive relationships in your life, you can achieve the happiness you’ve always wanted. Whether these are friendships, work relationships, or romantic relationships, surrounding yourself with positive people in your life will be very rewarding.

In retrospect, happiness has always been a choice and by following some guidelines you can significantly improve your life! It all depends on the motivation you hold and the power of positive thinking!